Yesterday in church I heard a quote that really made me think. The pastor was talking about financial problems and referred to people who have dug themselves into a financial hole through bad habits etc. He said that in order to get ourselves out of the holes we have dug ourselves into, we first had to lose the shovel.
This idea of the shovel and holes really stuck with me. I started thinking of our weight loss journeys and how this same theory could apply there as well. I cannot tell you how many people email me and tell me about how they are slowly regaining weight a few pounds at a time and slowly getting out of the habit of taking vitamins and slowly stopping regular exercise. Our bad habits are like shovels and we dig and dig and dig until we are so far down into the hole of obesity that it can be really hard to get back out.
Some of us have more than one shovel we like to use. For some the shovel is the habit of eating lots of sugar or drinking too much alcohol. For some our shovel is empty carbs. My shovel was a big bag of Doritos. We have to drop the shovels.
As for the holes…..there are so many different “holes” we can fall into. Regain, cross-addiction, depression, anger, hatred, empathy, loneliness, and the list can go on and on and on. Some holes are deeper than others too. There is a big difference in the depth of a hole that is composed of ten pounds of regain and the hole of cross addiction that is so deep that it is affecting your daily life. How deep is the hole of depression that is keeping you from being the happiest you can be. What about the hole of anger? That can be a really deep one. I see it every day in this community and it breaks my heart.
Every hole has a shovel that dug it to begin with. The first step is recognizing BOTH our holes and shovels. I know I have many. One of my holes is self-doubt. My shovel that dug that one is fear and lack of self-esteem. I need to lose that shovel. I am working on it daily. Another hole for me is worry. I worry about things that I have ZERO control over. I worry about what people think of me, and whether I am making everyone happy with my radio show and conferences because I MUST MAKE EVERYONE HAPPY. Oh and this gem of thought- EVERYONE MUST LIKE ME. I worry about that one a lot. My good friend Cari De La Cruz recently told me while we were having some girl talk – “You will not be everyone’s cup of tea and that is okay.” For so long I used the shovel of thinking I must please everyone and make everyone happy to dig the hole of worry. I am dropping that shovel and realizing that while I will always do my best to be the best person I can be and to be kind and compassionate and loving, some folks just will not get me or like me and that is okay!
I refuse to fall into anymore holes. My new goal is to recognize the holes and the shovels that dig them before they get deep enough for me to fall into and to drop the shovels and fill the holes back up! Life is too short and too precious to waste time down in holes!
I want to be on top of the world in the light and living life to its fullest and not down in a deep dark hole. Food addiction was a VERY nasty shovel for me that led to the VERY DEEP VERY DARK hole of obesity. Thankfully I am in treatment for that disease and am filling that hole day by day.
Do you have holes? Do you know what shovels dug them? Today is a good day to find out and climb back out into the light where you deserve to be! LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO LIVE IN HOLES! LOSE THE SHOVELS AND LIVE!